The Entitlement and Privilege Just Leaps Out, Huh?

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On social media, there were a lot of Black people and people of color who wondered whether Biden/Kamala winning the presidential election would shift white people’s focus away from marginalized communities. Unsurprisingly, but still annoyingly, that shift has already commenced. It was marginalized communities of Black people—especially Black women, Latinx people, Indigenous people, disabled people who not only rallied themselves, but did amazing work to fight voter suppression, and register a slew of new voters. But apparently, now that Biden won, we have to focus on the most important thing—how white people are feeling. …


Allyship Till It’s Your Friend—Then It’s “Bigger Issues”

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2020 is the premiere year for exposing all the problematic MAGA hat-wearing, “a little Republican” lying, “play a tree” foolishness of celebrities. I’m truly interested in seeing a compiled list of all the people who showed their true colors in 2020, because that list is long and diverse.

But this is about Chris Pratt, and the ludicrous need to show him support on social media because…he’s the least favorite Chris.

It started so simple. This isn’t the first poll about the celeb Chrises, but times are different and we know more about some of these celebrities.

That being the case, the overwhelming majority of people announced on twitter that they would—happily—chuck Chris Pratt aside. The reasons varied. Some just like him the least. But the majority dislike Chris Pratt because of both his political and religious affiliations. Though no one knows if he’s a trump supporter he does follow certain right-wing and conservative twitter accounts such as Nikki Haley, Dan Crenshaw, Ben Shapiro, Tucker Carlson, Kevin Spacey and LA Sheriff Alex Villanueva, the same one asked to resign because of his obstruction to allow oversight of the police including the existence of “deputy gangs” like the Compton Executioners, groups that routinely violate suspect’s rights even escalating to murder. …


Prove To Me You Are Worthy

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Freelance writing as a Black writer or PoC writer is filled with stress. At best, we are ignored by major outlets except when Black History Month rolls around or another month that focuses on a non-white group. The consensus is “we will look like assholes if we don’t have one of them write something for us”. Albeit, we are hired to contribute. Our income is a game of “will I survive this month” because they only want one or two tokens, if that, same as on their staff.

Few outlets staff us and even fewer staff us in numbers. You’ll usually find one or two Black people or people of color and the rest are variants of white. Pay as a contributor is rarely good, and often you’ll wait 3–6 months—prayers up it’s only that—to receive compensation. As a freelancer you want to pitch the major outlets but also know it’s a minefield even at the best of times because you rarely know how much they pay before you pitch or how long you will wait to get paid. How was this okay prior to a pandemic? …


With White Friends Like These…

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A Snapshot

Awhile back, I was working with a white woman. Immediately we discussed the contract and rules regarding working together. She agreed and signed the contract. The contract required a minimum number of hours a week—2 hours—and, if she canceled, it was up to her to reschedule so that the minimum was met. Within a few months, we’d had a total of about 6 hours when we should’ve been at 12. Options of rescheduling were rebuffed and, though we discussed remote online work, she complained it was too much of a challenge to set up after her one attempt.

I made it clear that she needed to honor the agreement and, in our last conversation, she yelled and said she didn’t know what was on the contract she signed, even though we went over it verbally and she was, of course, given a copy. She also said she knew after about few cancellations on her part that I was going to be a problem”. At that point, despite wanting to curse her out, I simply stated I was going to call the office and ask them to find someone else. She screamed, “I was going to do that anyway” and hung up. …


Miya Ponsetto Is A Perfect Example Of The Villain/Victim Bait and Switch

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One of the most infuriating and manipulative experiences is being a victim of an injustice and see the perpetrator claim victimhood. It’s a common occurrence, and white people typically employ this. But white women are in a particular league of their own with their ability to hide behind guilelessness to circumvent punishment. This innocence is provided by the patriarchal system but is a curse overall, yet white women use it—wielding it as deftly as a sword—when their conduct catches up with them. The incident that occurred in a Soho hotel is peak white feminism, calling for support against the patriarchy.

At the end of December a video was uploaded on Instagram and went viral. In it a white woman, later identified as Miya Ponsetto, is accusing a 14 year old Black kid, son of jazz musician Keyon Harrold, of stealing her Iphone in Arlo Soho, a hotel in New York, where Keyon Harrold and his son were guests. In the video she is screaming that he stole it and even goes so far as to physically pursue the kid to take her phone. …


Mad I Said White Liberals…Again? Oh Well

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When I said white liberals were failing after the November election, it created a furor of sensitive, “focus on me” complaints in the comments. They weren’t like those white people. They were all different and yet, unsurprisingly, they all sounded the same. They wanted recognition for being different, which is a staple of whiteness wanting congratulatory pats on the back for doing the bare minimum of work—if they actually did anything. I did not think this fake nonsense could get worse…until I woke up the day after the Georgia runoffs and saw what white people had created online.

White people seem incapable of seeing Black people, in this instance a Black woman, as a fully fleshed out, nuanced human being. We see it in shows and cinema constantly. We are unable to exist except in relation to them. So, if you want a Black female lead their partner must be white. If they initially have a Black partner, they are either dying or breaking up early on to make room for the new white love interest so that Black women are relatable and not a threat. After all, there is nothing more terrifying to white people than when Black people stand and exist separate from white people. It’s precisely why a group of Black people are stopped and questioned by police, while groups of white people are seemingly invisible to an officer’s eyes. We have to be watered down in a manner that is easily digestible to a white audience. …


“Eat The Rich” Applies To All The Wealthy

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Cardi B’s recent actions online highlight why, no matter how much we want to feel celebrities are no different from us, they are not nor will they ever be. Not only did Cardi, during a pandemic as her “fans” if she should by a purse for $88,000 not realizing how insensitive and tone deaf it is, but she then doubled down claiming victimhood, targeted an account for her masses of follows and used her “charity” as a silencing tactic.

First off, celebs and the wealthy seem to truly be clueless as to the suffering of so many people, including their “fans”. The effects of the pandemic are widespread. People have lost loved ones, lost jobs, faced eviction, have no money for food and Cardi is so disconnected from this reality that she can’t fathom why anyone would get upset about her buying a 88k bag. …


You Hate When We Call Out Your Anti-Blackness, Yet Love Demonstrating It

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The piece written about the importance that white people place on animal life, particularly dogs, while ignoring or minimizing the harm that Black people experience because of racism, racist and dogs was…well-received. In the sense that the comments section amply showcased white people raving from they don’t get it, to “all life matters”, to “you must not have pets”.

As such, and given the recent occurrences in NYC, it’s time to once again revisit how much emphasis white people place on their love of dogs, while ignoring the racism before them. But point it out and they lose their minds. Don’t believe me. …


If They Ever Had Values In The First Place

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The last week or two has been chock-full of rappers showing their priorities to their fans. As the Election Day approaches, quite a few rappers—Ice Cube, 50 Cent (though he walked it back—too late), Lil Wayne, Lil Pump, have chosen to endorse Trump. While their fans are horrified, this is not too surprising. A wealthy celebrity is like any other wealthy individual—they want to keep as much of their money as possible. To hell with the rest of the world.

It’s a Problem…Till You’re The Problem

Same as those who rave that all must be held accountable, saying the elite shouldn’t hoard money and that, overall, through tax breaks and loopholes they pay far less in taxes than someone working a 40 hour work week sounds wonderful. But when it hits too close to home, look how quickly they try to tell masses on social media that sh*t is gold. …


Forgiveness Without Accountability Does Harm

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Each time a white person does something harmful to a Black person or person of color, the first thing we hear from white people and those who don’t want to think critically, are cliched responses about forgiveness and how people deserve a second chance. There’s too much that is overlooked or minimized with these laughable arguments to give a white person a pass. Let’s use Amy Cooper who is back in the news after calling the cops on a Black man in Central Park as an example.

White Women—Liberal or Conservative—Are Part of The System

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