If Black people don’t dress white or wear a white hairstyle then white people will find it hard to empathize with them? That’s a “you” problem and not a “them” problem. If you need someone to look like you in order to feel a connection thats your problem. There are people of all races who are able to connect with each other despite looking different because they understand that common ground can be and should be more than just surface. However, groups that have been collectively traumatized by gaslighting, sealioning and other microaggressions deserve a space where they don’t have to constantly brace for the next attack. Culture plays a part but race is the defining issue because how white ppl view us when they see us. And no it has nothing to do with traveling. I don’t move away from white people because their hair is straight while mine is big, thick and curly. Its something that’s taught. As such, the impetus is on white people to realize that value doesn’t come with physical appearance. Period.