Allyship Till It’s Your Friend—Then It’s “Bigger Issues”

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2020 is the premiere year for exposing all the problematic MAGA hat-wearing, “a little Republican” lying, “play a tree” foolishness of celebrities. I’m truly interested in seeing a compiled list of all the people who showed their true colors in 2020, because that list is long and diverse.

But this is about Chris Pratt, and the ludicrous need to show him support on social media because…he’s the least favorite Chris.

It started so simple. This isn’t the first poll about the celeb Chrises, but times are different and we know more about some of these celebrities.

That being the case, the overwhelming majority of people announced on twitter that they would—happily—chuck Chris Pratt aside. The reasons varied. Some just like him the least. But the majority dislike Chris Pratt because of both his political and religious affiliations. Though no one knows if he’s a trump supporter he does follow certain right-wing and conservative twitter accounts such as Nikki Haley, Dan Crenshaw, Ben Shapiro, Tucker Carlson, Kevin Spacey and LA Sheriff Alex Villanueva, the same one asked to resign because of his obstruction to allow oversight of the police including the existence of “deputy gangs” like the Compton Executioners, groups that routinely violate suspect’s rights even escalating to murder. …


You Hate When We Call Out Your Anti-Blackness, Yet Love Demonstrating It

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The piece written about the importance that white people place on animal life, particularly dogs, while ignoring or minimizing the harm that Black people experience because of racism, racist and dogs was…well-received. In the sense that the comments section amply showcased white people raving from they don’t get it, to “all life matters”, to “you must not have pets”.

As such, and given the recent occurrences in NYC, it’s time to once again revisit how much emphasis white people place on their love of dogs, while ignoring the racism before them. But point it out and they lose their minds. Don’t believe me. …


The Entitlement and Privilege Just Leaps Out, Huh?

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Photo by Gayatri Malhotra on Unsplash

On social media, there were a lot of Black people and people of color who wondered whether Biden/Kamala winning the presidential election would shift white people’s focus away from marginalized communities. Unsurprisingly, but still annoyingly, that shift has already commenced. It was marginalized communities of Black people—especially Black women, Latinx people, Indigenous people, disabled people who not only rallied themselves, but did amazing work to fight voter suppression, and register a slew of new voters. But apparently, now that Biden won, we have to focus on the most important thing—how white people are feeling. …


If They Ever Had Values In The First Place

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The last week or two has been chock-full of rappers showing their priorities to their fans. As the Election Day approaches, quite a few rappers—Ice Cube, 50 Cent (though he walked it back—too late), Lil Wayne, Lil Pump, have chosen to endorse Trump. While their fans are horrified, this is not too surprising. A wealthy celebrity is like any other wealthy individual—they want to keep as much of their money as possible. To hell with the rest of the world.

It’s a Problem…Till You’re The Problem

Same as those who rave that all must be held accountable, saying the elite shouldn’t hoard money and that, overall, through tax breaks and loopholes they pay far less in taxes than someone working a 40 hour work week sounds wonderful. But when it hits too close to home, look how quickly they try to tell masses on social media that sh*t is gold. …


Forgiveness Without Accountability Does Harm

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Each time a white person does something harmful to a Black person or person of color, the first thing we hear from white people and those who don’t want to think critically, are cliched responses about forgiveness and how people deserve a second chance. There’s too much that is overlooked or minimized with these laughable arguments to give a white person a pass. Let’s use Amy Cooper who is back in the news after calling the cops on a Black man in Central Park as an example.

White Women—Liberal or Conservative—Are Part of The System

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In May, Amy Cooper was walking her dog in a section in Central Park that forbids dogs being off leash when she encountered Chris Cooper (no relation), a Black man and avid bird watcher. When he told her to leash her dog, she got mad and approached him. She was even more incensed when she realized that he was, smartly, recording the encounter. She told him that she was going to call the cops if he didn’t stop, though he wasn’t doing anything wrong and he told her to maintain her distance as she kept trying to approach him. Angry, she said she was going to call the cops and made a point to let Chris know that she would tell them “an African-American man” was threatening her. …


Our Voices Only Matter On Special Occasions

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If you discuss how much freelance writers make, income will fluctuate signficantly. Usually though, the further away you are from being white, male and able-bodied, the less value your voice has because society trains us to view white voices as authorities on all subjects—white men even more-so.

They are looked to for topics on racism, poverty, PIC (prison industrial complex) and others that they have no personal experience—but hey, they read a book. They are rarely challenged or questioned, especially if the have a PhD before their name because that gives them carte blanche to talk, with authority, about every damn topic. …


Elections Are Not New, Neither Is White Supremacy

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Some people heartily endorse voting in this “democratic” system. I will likely vote in this election, despite not liking Biden either, but I am going in under no illusion that a simple changing of the guard will fix everything wrong with this country. An inordinate of people are commodifying life—and loss of life—as a segue into declaring on social media “VOTE”! Some will add, “if we want this to stop…vote”. This gives far more power in the ballot than is actually present and, for some, that power is nonexistent. …


Stop Giving People Passes

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Is it really that hard to attack, call out someone without attacking their marginalized identity? Apparently so for quite a few people, and that says something about what you notice and feel is a negative more than anything else. Too many ignore racism, anti-Blackness, misogynoir, sexism, xenophobia, when it’s aimed at someone they don’t like. Suddenly, all of it becomes acceptable.

How Are You Different?

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Say a Black man supports Trump and is right-wing conservative. He may have conversations with white people in his circle who constantly attack Black people who protest while simultaneously praising him because he’s not “like those Blacks” and he allows it. Because, hey, he doesn’t like them either. He doesn’t see the racism, or he chooses to ignore it because it’s both directed at someone he hates and he is trying to maintain and increase his power and economic success. …


Not Even Moving At A Snail’s Pace

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Why We Don’t Give AF

So many white people love to lie, tell us to calm down, hurl MLK quotes at us, and ignore anything else. But they expect us to give them a chance, have a dialogue, speak nicely, etc. What they can’t seem to grasp is that dealing microaggressions over the course of our lives, seeing continued harm inflicted while white people sing “both sides”, leaves many of us saying aloud or mentally, “Idgaf”.

This government and it’s various branches, from education, to incarceration to being the “long arm of the law” are filled with racist, sexist, transphobic, xenophobic people peddling the interests of the elite and wealthy and this group primarily consists of white people. The reason greater strides have not been made is that they give the bare minimum of changes that can easily be dismantled later, as we are witnessing now. …


You May Think You’re An Ally, But You May Be More of a Hindrance

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Every time there’s an incident with a white person, there are those who try to defend, excuse their actions and accept apologies on behalf of the marginalized community harmed similar to a celebrity accepting an award on behalf of the absent winner. But we are present; just invisible to you. You ignore our voice, discount our critiques, minimize our pain, then feign you “never knew” rather than admitting your conscious choices led to that.

So here’s a scorecard and for each one ‘Yes’, give yourself 1 point. At the end, check your total and see how you do.

— Have you called the police, or thought about calling the police, on a Black person or PoC who was not visibly doing anything wrong? (ex: just standing on the street, sitting in their car, etc.) …

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